I ran across this blog post a couple of weeks ago and I think it is so frickin accurate. Read this first before I comment:
While laying next to the pool yesterday with my good friend Leanne, we started talking about the different types of people we know in our lives and why some of them have amazing success at almost everythingthey do in life, while others remain stagnant and miserable no matter how hard they seem to try.
We came to the conclusion that there are two types of people in the world.
The Hard-Hitters and The Bull-Shitters.
Here are the not-so-official definitions of each.
Hard-Hitter: Someone who knows what they want and goes out and gets it; a balls to the wall, pedal to the metal, no excuses, life-loving mover and shaker.
I am a hard-hitter (and because of it, I live the life of my dreams).
Bull-Shitter: Someone who only knows what they don’t want, yet complains every day about having it, and makes up excuses as to why they have it; a whiney, I would if I could but I can’t so I won’t, resenting, self-pitying, slacker.
Although I don’t know exact numbers, it is safe to say that bull-shitters make up a HUGEpercentage of the world’s population. We all know who they are… they’re the walking dead around us who go about their pathetic lives slowly sucking the life out of anyone who comes within ear shot of their infectious misery.
One of the things I find the most amusing about bull-shitters is their constant need to convince other bull-shiiters that their life is worse. It’s like “man that sucks that you lost your job today… well guess what? I lost my job and ran over my cat this morning… my life sucks way more.”
It’s this incredibly sad and pathetic need for sympathy that has made me realize that all bull-shitters have ONE distinctive characteristic. They suffer from the worst kind of PMS imaginable… “Poor Me Syndrome.”
“Poor Me Syndrome” is highly contagious and can be quite damaging if you are exposed to it for too long. If you find yourself in the presence of someone suffering from PMS, you need to distance yourself immediately and seek some serious hard-hitting treatment.
There are 7 hard-telling symptoms of “Poor Me Syndrome” that you need to look out for:
1. Jealousy – If there’s on thing I hate the most about bull-shitters it’s their uncontrollable jealousy. I get so sick of hearing the words “you’re so lucky” from countless bull-shitters I have ran across over time. As if I got to where I am today because of the horse shoe shoved up my ass. Bull-shitters are easy to spot because they turn bright green with envy when in the presence of a hard-hitter.
2. Resent – Yup. Bull-shitters are full of it. They are pissed off at the world for their “situation” and loathe others who are happy and successful. Yet instead of trying to learn from those who found a way to be completely fulfilled in life, they wallow in their self-pity and remain feeling completely sorry for themselves.
3. Excuses – This one has to be the most classic symptoms of PMS. Bull-shitters are constantly making up excuses as to why their life sucks and why they have yet to do anything about it. The truth is… they never will. They spend every ounce of energy they can muster up on justifying their reasons for inaction to anyone who will listen.
4. Complaining – When talking to a bull-shitters this is ALL you will hear. Bull-shitters have absolutely nothing positive to say about their current situation. They bitch and complain in hopes that SOMEONE (oh please anyone) has it worse off than they do. What they don’t know is the more they focus on the negative in their life, the more negative they will get. This is probably the most pronounced and contagious symptom of PMS. If around a bull-shitter for too long, you will feel the uncontrollable urge to complain yourself. You MUST resist.
5. Apathy- Bull-shitters NEVER take action. They sit on the sidelines and spend everyday watching life pass them by. Ask them why? Symptom 3 will suddenly become more pronounced.
6. Mediocrity – Bull-shitters have completely settled for mediocrity in their lives, yet they will never admit this to a hard-hitter. Bull-shitters have a horrible habit of surrounding themselves with other bull-shitters in hopes their “averageness” will appear less pronounced in comparison. The truth is, the only thing worse (and more noticeable) than mediocrity is a room full of it.
7. Ungratefulness – Last but not least. Bull-shitters are incapable of expressing gratitude. If you read my previous post you know the detrimental effects of this symptom so there’s no need to elaborate on this one.
Lucky for you (and me), these 7 symptoms of “Poor Me Syndrome” make it easy to smell a bull-shitter from a mile away.
If you are completely serious about being a hard-hitter and living the life of your dreams, the first thing you need to do is cut the bullshit and distance yourself from anyone in your life who suffers from the above symptoms. Cutting the bullshit isn’t always easy – especially when the culprits accused of spreading the “Poor Me Syndrome” are some of your very close friends or family. The best way to build immunity to PMS is to know a bull-shitter when you see one and take every possible precaution to protect yourself from their debilitating poison. Choose to surround yourself as much as possible with other hard-hitters. People who inspire and push you to be an absolute rock-star at everything you do.
Wow right! It’s exactly what you need to hear, unless you have achieved all your goals in life at this present moment. I would never tell this to someone’s face…am a little too considerate (translate as wussy) to do that but it is so true. Everyone and their mother has a comment on other people’s lives, choices, careers, relationships, fashion choices…and any other bloody thing. But have you ever looked at your own life and realized its equally pathetic as the person you just blasted?
If you are lucky or incredibly fulfilled, then God Bless You…carry on to be that way. But I think if all of us were to ask ourselves, “Am I a hard hitter or a bull-shitter?” our ego wants us to say “hard-hitter” but our brain is whispering with shame, “bullshitter.” Now though the author of the above post makes bullshitters seem like incredibly toxic beings, I just think some people are cut out to be hard hitters and some are not. You should just truly think about it yourself and accept it if you are a bullshitter.
Bullshitters can still be very happy with their lives. They may not do anything worthwhile and may succumb to the pressures of mediocrity to appease society, but if you are a bullshitter, be confident in that choice. Don’t sulk your life away wishing you were stronger, smarter, luckier or more talented. You had a choice to be something or do something and you chose not to. Simple.
On the other hand, if you realize you are truly a hard hitter, be more proactive in your daily choices: How do you manage your time? Do you have clear goals for the future? Do you spend time on developing the skills you need to succeed? What is preventing you from achieving what you want? This post woke me up…for real! I am the hardest hard-hitter but I was acting like a bullshitter for the past few months. I just really needed to question myself after I read this, and once I realized I am a hard-hitter in and out, I didn’t look back.
I think the author oversimplifies the concept a bit. There are unavoidable circumstances that can detour even the best hard hitters (I mean it…not just saying it in my defense). But the real hard hitters get over it and are so disgusted with the bullshitter lifestyle, they can’t stand it after some time.
If you want to succeed…
- You have to be clear about your strengths and weaknesses. Don’t lie to yourself because you don’t want to hurt your own ego.
- Accept your emotional baggage.
- Pick goals that align with who you are as a person and how much you can realistically achieve.
- Plan out how to get there and what the obstacles are.
- Have the confidence in your abilities and keep yourself mentally prepared to overcome the obstacles in Step 4.
- Ready…get set…GO!
Good Luck! You can be a hard hitter from any point in your life…click below.
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